The experience of true connection, of knowing and being known by someone, is not dependent upon perceiving the world through the same eyes.
Imposter syndrome, burnout, fraud, compassion fatigue?
Do you find yourself avoiding interactions with your parents or find yourself emotionally and mentally preparing to be around your parents?
Do you feel you cannot be your true self around your parents?
Do you struggle trying to make other people happy?
Do you find it easier to know what other’s want from you, rather than knowing what you want for yourself?
Do you find yourself feeling negative, angry emotions around your parent when you want to feel loving?
The transition from child-adult, to adult-adult relationships with parents can be complicated for both parties. Even when both individuals want a similar outcome, navigating the emotional factors involved can be tumultuous. Most parents and most children want an authentic adult connection, but the pre-existing patterns can be hard to see and move away from. These patterns are both influenced from our present history together and our parents history with their parents. If you find yourself not wanting to recreate the same conflicts you have with your parents, with your child or significant other, then contact me and we can explore these concerns together.
